The countdown to age 65 has begun. That’s when I can “retire” and do all the things on my bucket list.  Like traveling the world, visiting every brewery and coffee shop in town, and volunteering my time on a regular basis.  The daily grind of the workweek and the packed weekend social calendar leaves no room for community service- right? 

 At least that is what I thought for many years – until I finally woke up. 

Loneliness and Social Isolation

I want to live a long and productive life. Being in the company of others is an important factor in achieving that.  In fact, research shows that loneliness and social isolation can increase one’s chance of dying early by more than 25%.  

Thinking Outside of Ourselves

As I reflected on my pursuit for longevity on a recent drive, I finally noticed the nursing home near my home.  Though I pass by this place every day, I never took the time to consider how lonely the people that live there might be. 

I made a decision that day to do something about that right now, even though I am still in my 50’s.  I am fortunate  to have so many people in my life, so why not try and give my time to others who may not be so lucky?

Fulfilling a need can be easy

I immediately made a call to the activity director of the nursing home, and 5 minutes later I was signed up to play bingo with the residents the following week. That was easy.

I blocked an hour on my jam packed work schedule that Thursday afternoon. I wondered, was it even going to make a difference?  But I felt that it was worth a go, and I really didn’t have anything to lose other than making my day a bit more hectic than usual.

Small acts, Big impact

As I walked in the door, I  saw 15-20 residents eagerly, but patiently waiting for me. After a brief orientation and introductions, I commenced the game they had been looking forward to playing all week.

Who knew that helping others fill out their bingo cards for special prizes would be so important to them, and so much fun for me? I even got a quick  tour of the nursing home and talked to some of the residents and staff. 

Nursing homes need volunteers

I learned that post-pandemic, there have been far fewer volunteers who are willing to come visit and help than before. The nursing home said they are in desperate need of regular volunteers.  I am thankful to be in a position to help them with that.

So I’m now on their calendar one hour a month every month, and continue to enjoy every day I’m there.  Many of the residents now know me. Some have begun sharing personal stories that they previously had nobody to tell them to.  At least for those moments, they are no longer lonely.  They feel seen and heard – fulfilling some of the most basic needs we all have as humans.  

We can all find time to give back

If we are honest with ourselves, we all have a little time to spare to help others.  It doesn’t have to be long.  It doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be just a couple of rounds of bingo. And we don’t have to wait until retirement age to do so.  

I am grateful  I woke up and made this realization now, when I can actually do something about it.

It is not that hard to give back. 

If I can do it – anyone can.